October 26, 2006

  • A Brief Study On Sexiness

    From http://www.xanga.com/ThePensivePoet/541515463/a-brief-study-on-sexiness.html

    There are certain qualities that make one sexy.  Some possess them,
    some do not.  They exist in varying degrees in all those considered to
    be sexy.  I will attempt to describe the status of sexual
    attractiveness with an accurate brevity.  These are written from the
    perspective of a heterosexual male, but the points made generally
    universal.

    1.  Mystery is sexy.  It
    is the effect of being right on the cusp of knowledge and ignorance
    that causes the excitement.  Knowing what is there but not being able
    to see it.  Which is sexier?  A biology text with photographs of
    naughty bits or somebody wearing the tiniest of undergarments?

    2.  Overconfidence is sexy. 
    Of course, this quality is generally viewed as unattractive, but it is
    impossible to be sexy without knowing that you are.  It should also be
    noted that one could have a sexually attractive body as a result of
    genetics and healthy habits and still fail to be sexy themselves.  It
    is only through self-assuredness that one can tease, which is key to
    the seductive effects of mystery.

    3.  Vitality is sexy. 
    This is engrained far deeper into the human brain than can be reversed
    by political correctness.  Youth is indicative of health, as is having
    a firm body.  Good musculature and complexion combined with a
    symmetrical face that meets with a given culture's standards of beauty
    is the key to physical sexiness. 

    4.  Exaggeration of gender roles is sexy. 
    The average woman finds a man who is very masculine to be sexy. 
    Naturally, many are turned off by extremes - in this case the
    overabundance of muscle, extremely veinated skin, et cetera.  This same
    rule applies for men as well.  For the male, a woman who exaggerates
    their traditional role is found to be more sexually attractive.  Given
    that, the factor of 'cuteness' comes into play.  The key to this seems
    to be the eyes.  Having larger eyes taps into the instinctive
    perception of cuteness in correlation to protective instincts towards
    infants.  It is also for this reason that breasts are generally desired
    larger than supplied by nature.

    5.  Exaggeration of sexual cues is sexy. 
    When aroused there are a number of different physiological changes that
    occur other than the obvious male erection.  Blood rushes to many other
    parts of the body causing them to swell or harden.  The most notable of
    these are the lips and nipples.  It is for this reason that large lips
    are considered sexually attractive.  Angelina Jolie is a perfect
    example of the combination of large eyes, large lips, good skin, and a
    symmetrical face.  Being able to see nipples through clothing is also
    sexually stimulating, as the hardening of the nipple takes place during
    sexual arousal.  When viewing something that is attractive, the pupils
    dilate.  This is why images of models are altered so that the pupils
    are larger.  This gives the viewer the sense that the model is
    attracted to them, which in turn makes them more attracted to the model.

       
    The problem with societal values and sexuality is that many of these
    factors are in sharp contrast with what is to be found in a lasting
    monogamous relationship.  Mystery will obviously be done away with
    after a short period of sexual activity between the two.  Of course
    there could be a long period of pre-sexual courtship, but eventually
    the two will come to know everything there is to know about the other
    person.  As for overconfidence, a person possessing such a quality
    would generally be viewed in a very negative light.  Vitality also
    fades with time.  It is possible to keep in good shape, but aging is a
    physical inevitability.  The youthfulness will fade quickly, followed
    afterwards by any firmness of body or smoothness of skin. 

       
    It is because of the fading nature of most sexual stimulants that any
    relationship based upon sexual attractiveness is destined to fail. 
    Unfortunately, physical intimacy has a profound effect on our emotions
    and can lead one to feel love for someone they will eventually no
    longer find attractive.  It is only through love motivated by something
    else that the relationship can survive.  Love and lust are very easily
    differentiated over an extended period of time. 

        It is
    possible, however, to feel a genuine love for one who at first was only
    attractive sexually.  The opposite scenario is very rare.  If a person
    is motivated more by sexual attractiveness than by other factors, they
    will be unable to remain happy in a monogamous relationship.  Human
    nature has provided society with alternatives to this scenario,
    allowing people in a monogamous relationship to exercise their sexual
    needs with someone who is currently seen as sexually attractive while
    still maintaining a relationship with the initial partner.  The problem
    with this is there is a very good chance that one motivated strongly
    enough by sexuality to seek other partners will not feel strongly
    enough for the initial partner to maintain their relationship.

       
    Sexuality and sexual attractiveness are natural concepts that come as a
    response to certain cues.  Understanding these is the key to
    controlling them and maintaining an optimal balance of emotional and
    sexual satisfaction.

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